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PDA — Pathological Demand Avoidance

Not defiance — a different response to demands. A profile within the autism spectrum, marked by an intense need for autonomy and safety.

It is a difference in how the brain works. A child trying to remember, to sit still, to organize — and needing us to see the effort.

Sometimes the refusal is not defiance. It's a request for safety, for time, for a little more control.

Small moments, kept promises, and the patience to listen — even when the words are hard to find.